Girls make the vast majority of bloggers. And so when we hear the word "blogger", we automatically think of such topics as fashion, beauty, lifestyle. Because that's what we girls choose to blog about the most.
Blogging about beautiful and often expensive things make so many people's eyes roll. Like, yeah, sponsored content that you, beauty blogger never spent a cent on and that doesn't make any difference apart from inspiring more and more consumerism. Or you, travel bloggers who create an illusion that travelling is effortless and even essential past of life that those who don't travel are missing out on. Or you, lifestyle bloggers whose every day is supposedly pretty and stress-free. In short, aren't they all just annoying?
I used to think this too, until I found myself blogging about lifestyle and discovered it is the easiest way to focus on positive aspects of life. When people choose to blog about beautiful things (whatever that means to them), it takes their mind off of other things that bother them. And it truly does. Everyone blogs in in a different way, though. Some people just choose to never mention any struggle at all. Some speak about it from time to time, and some seriously open up. I found out that opening up is good for me in particular, especially when I speak from my heart and am being honest, be it about creativity, work or mental health. It helps me to put together all those pieces of me that were scattered all over the place. However when I spend too much time blogging about positive things exclusively, it quickly starts to feel like an illusion of a positive bubble.
There are so many others who happily go on blogging for years about 'beautiful things' only, though. A few day ago I stumbled upon this post by Martha in which she questions whether or not there is too much positivity in the blogosphere. I feel like there is; sometimes it seems like it's really too much. Like there's some special group of people that live a life of wonderfulness, totally disconnected from reality. But they must have chosen to make their blog a curated bubble for a reason, haven't they?
- Betty Means Business, The Business of Chronic Pain
But if there's one thing about blogging that is truly wonderful, it would be the 'unfollow' button. Just unfollow those who make you feel miserable! It will make all the difference to you. And as for your feed, you are totally in charge of what you see when you scroll your Bloglovin and of how it makes you feel. I built myself a feed of truthful lifestyle, creativity and a bit of humour (hello Hannah Gale) and I love it. I've been building my confidence and ability to enjoy my own life, and I built my feed in a way that supports this intention and keeps me determined.
Back to the point, I do agree that bloggers in general make too much effort to paint a picture of beautiful life. There's too much hiding behind a bubble of positivity, and of course it affects the way we perceive ourselves and our life vs online people's lives. Ever since I started July + August I've been promoting my belief that as bloggers we should be more honest and open (see Stories Worth Sharing Online). And it didn't happen out of the blue, I was inspired by bloggers such as Jen Carrington who literally helped me get through difficult times and get better. So that I believe that if you make an effort and open up, it won't be in vain, you can truly make a difference for someone, even if you'll never get to know it. You'll make a difference for yourself, too, helping you put random pieces of you together into a beautiful, confident and coherent whole.
There's one thing, though. It's easier for me to talk about it and do it when I have zero followers and no one from my real life knows that I have a blog. It is of course much trickier when you have a big real audience. It is so much scarier. But I do understand that at some point, someone sneaky from work might find my blog and get to some very personal posts. Now this would be positively terrifying. How am I going to feel then?
I think there will definitely be a moment of panic if someone mentions it or asks me a question about it, but at the end of the day, I know I wouldn't do anything differently. I would still speak of my struggles, because this was why I started July + August on the first place. I didn't start it for an audience or for those people from work, I started it for myself. I just wanted to find out how to be me and also wanted to write. And there we have it. This is my beautiful thing to blog about.
To finish, beautiful things make us happy. Girl will be girls, and we will still blog about all kinds of loveliness, because it's just what we are. And everyone has their own beautiful thing, their own definition of prettiness. There's no need to hide behind the pink bubble, though. Being more real, open and honest never hurt anyone, and I believe it would help any blogger to create a stronger and more meaningful connection to their audience. Even if I was a freelancer using my blog to attract clients, I'd still want them to know who there'd be hiring, because there's no point denying that the struggles I talk about here affect the way I live and work. The thoughts I share make me who I am as well.
Another link that came to my mind when I was writing this post: I've Stopped Comparing Myself To Her by Sophie Rosie.
Isn't it beautiful?
Let's have an awesome week! <3